I think this is something we all know, but not really something we talk about in jiu jitsu. I’ve had conversations with other jiu jitsu women where this is sometimes the elephant in the room that’s danced around, and I think that it’s time we explicitly state it.
You can compete against someone and still not only have the upmost respect for that person, but you can in fact be friends with them.
There are plenty of other women in the jiu jitsu community that I have competed against, and regardless of winning or losing I am always thrilled to see them at the next tournament. And they seem pretty happy to see me as well! We chat, talk about how things are going, so on and so forth.
While the sport is growing in popularity, it is still relatively a small sport. Particularly as you gain more rank, you’ll see more and more of the same faces at tournaments, the same people standing across from you to shake your hand to start a match, the same smiles on the podium as you sit there and wait for that one guy to get out of the photographer’s way so you can just take the damn picture… It seems kind of silly to see someone a bajillion times (granted, at one specific function, but still), and not at the very least exchange a few pleasantries.
Anyway, my point being that there are times where it seems to be a bit awkward: you’re not sure if someone is willing to extend their hand in friendship after a match. And some won’t, if we’re being totally honest. But more often than not they will, and to me that’s also part of what competing is all about: of course the main purpose is to step on the mat and do your best with the intent of winning, but win or lose it’s also about meeting new people and having a chance to connect with other people in the sport.
Just some thoughts for today: have a great day everyone!
Hi everyone! This is going to be super quick, but just wanted to share how Hillary VanOrnum is opening her own academy with her husband and brother in Portland!
I met Hillary at Master Worlds…. two years ago(?) She’s a lovely person and I’m really excited for her and her new business venture!
Check out their site: Unicorn Jiu Jitsu and have a great day everyone!
This past weekend we had a tournament down in Virginia Beach for all of the East Coast affiliates in the Ribeiro Association: a number of schools competed for a pretty sweet trophy, made some great friendships and overall had a fantastic time.
How was your weekend? Let me know- otherwise, have a great day!
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I’l be honest, I don’t know the back story of a lot of the big name grapplers, male or female, so it’s always nice to see the bios of some big names on the site BJJ Heroes.
They recently did one for Gazzy Parman: I know the name, but really didn’t know much about the grappler herself. She has an impressive resume, and sounds like someone who has led a pretty interesting life.
Check it out, and have a great day everyone!
Well, at least they’re the same height.
This past Friday apparently the two met in St. Louis, MO (I’m still not sure why Missouri,but hey, whatever) and the announcement was made that the two will fight in Tokyo on New Year’s Eve.
Garcia’s opponent- Lei’D (pronounced Lady?) Tapa, is a jiu jitsu blue belt, in addition to her pro wrestling background. Both apparently had words to say about the event, Garcia stating, “I’m ready. I was born to be challenged.”
Tapa also had her own statement, claiming how she is the “Queen of Rings” and “destined for greatness”.
So, I guess we’ll see how this plays out on New Year’s Eve: who do you think will win? Garcia or Tapa? Let me know- otherwise, have a great day everyone!
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Well, this is interesting- apparently I missed that Rhonda Rousey announced that she wants to be the best at jiu jitsu. That’s cool, I guess. I think she has the potential to do well in jiu jitsu, but it sounds like she feels it’s going to be a breeze, where I feel it’s going to be more difficult than she may realize. But then again, she may enjoy the challenge: it gives her something to aspire to while she currently holds her title in UFC.
And then on the other side of the fence, jiu jitsu black belt Mackenzie Dern apparently just announced her intentions to move to MMA, which sounds pretty cool. I don’t really have anything to say on the subject, so we’ll just have see how that plays out.
In preparation for Pans this week, our academy had a training camp during the entire weekend- hours of drilling, positional training, we even threw in some strength & conditioning and a yoga session. It was a good time, and in addition to a great training session, just a fantastic time to be around friends and teammates.
I’ll post some photos when I get them (I know, I never seem to take photos of these events- usually because I’m in the middle of doing said activity). How does your academy get ready for a big tournament? Let me know- otherwise, have a great day everyone!
One female jiu jitsu player recently shared her experience on Planet BJJ, about how a man refused to roll with her because the man’s wife “wouldn’t let him” roll with a female….
I legitimately do not understand this mentality- which admittedly even though I was in a relationship with a fellow grappler/jiu jitsuka/whatever, I’m also involved in the sport so I’m coming at this from a totally different perspective. I was never jealous of him rolling with another female because I knew how I behaved with other guys, and understood what happened in class and on the mats.
I would really like to sit down with one (or a couple) of these women and try to understand their concerns which leads them to push this edict on their partners. Is it lack of communication? An expectation as to how each grappler will react while rolling with one another (how a girl will react to the guy, and vice versa)? I’m genuinely curious as to where the issue lies precisely: I typically believe that once we understand the cause of an issue, we can work on resolving it, or at least coming to some sort of compromise.
Have you encountered this as a woman, a guy refusing to roll with you due to the request of a partner, and more importantly, did they explain why? Dudes, have you been with a girlfriend/partner that didn’t like the idea of you rolling with a female, and did you two talk about what was causing the issue? Let me know!
Grappling Girl posted an article about the biggest pet peeves she and other grapplers have when it comes to class, drilling and rolling. I’m trying to think what my personal pet peeves are, but right now it’s like when someone asks you what you want for your birthday or Christmas- you’re on the spot and blank.
What are some of your pet peeves? Let me know!