Over the past couple of months I’ve realized that in some way, being a black belt is sort of like being a parent. It’s definitely more than just teaching techniques- people look to you for guidance (mainly in regards to jiu jitsu, but sometimes not), even when you are not entirely sure of the next course of action.
You come in early, or you stay late after class because someone has a question or needs help. You patiently explain- again, and again- a particular concept, but then you have the reward of seeing their eyes light up when they finally get it or successfully complete the technique.
You get up early for events you are not even participating in, to take photos and support those who are taking part. And if this past weekend is any indication, I’m going to be the best, or worst mom ever:
Hey, is that so-and-so’s mom?
Yep.
Is she really napping in the bleachers?
Yep.
You (at least appear) to have this certain level of authority, but you also encourage lower ranks to think for themselves, to express their own personalities and creativity, so they too can progress in their jiu jitsu and take on a leadership/parental role in the academy- to develop into a full fledged adult, if we’re continuing with that analogy.
And speaking personally, you do it all because you care about your teammates, you want them to succeed, and sincerely wish for their success and happiness, just like you would for any family member you care about.
Just wanted to share with you all. Have a great day everyone!
A Skirt on the Mat 