It’s funny, around this time of year I notice three things: first, there are people who resolve to start jiu jitsu or (in a more general context) start going to the gym in the new year. Second, there are people who regularly attend the gym and complain about these “resolutioners”. And third, there are people (mainly on Facebook) who vehemently hate the people who complain about the “resolutioners”. It’s a vicious, but sort of funny cycle when you think about it. As someone who naturally attempts to stay diplomatic and keep the peace, this is what I have to say to all three groups.
To the first group: hey, thanks for coming in! You’ll find jiu jitsu a lot of fun and we really hope that you stick with it. It’s a lot of work, but reaps tremendous amounts of benefits.
To the second group: yes, the mats are probably more crowded than usual, and since these people are new there is that unknown element as to whether or not they will stick with jiu jitsu no matter what time of the year they started. They just happened to choose the beginning of January, coincidentally at the same time as a number of other people. Just relax, help them if and when you can, and even if after all your efforts they decide to quit after a couple of months, there’s really nothing you can do about it.
To the third group: while you do have a point in that no one should judge another for starting a new activity, there also needs to be an understanding that this second group is just feeling a bit frustrated. Just remember this too shall pass, the second group will get over it and we’ll all continue living our lives.
Have you noticed more people in your jiu jitsu classes than usual, particularly brand new white belts? Has someone been complaining about all the brand new people, or have you experienced someone venting about how they hate people complaining about the “resolutioners”? Let me know- otherwise, have a great day everyone!