I know, I’m late to the party in mentioning this article but Valerie Worthington wrote an article about not judging someone when they take a break from BJJ for personal reasons.
As much as BJJ is a refuge from the “slings and arrows” of real life, a way to exercise, a way to cope with the stresses of our jobs, etc. the fact of the matter is things do happen outside of the mat room that will require our attention and force us to address those issues and pull us from our training. These events can knock us on our ass and force us to sit out for a bit. If you feel this applies to your situation, you’re definitely not alone. I’ve had to take a couple of breaks of that nature due to personal events- as much as I care about my teammates, as much as I consider them my non-blood related family, I didn’t want to train and didn’t go to the gym for a couple of weeks, mainly because I had no desire to get on the mat and I just didn’t feel like I was emotionally in the right place. I’m trying to think if I ever felt that someone judged me for my time off the mat- I don’t think so, or if they did I was pretty much in the mindset of not giving a damn.
We’ve had other teammates leave and come back for personal reasons as well. We just had a guy come back from a hiatus as well, and maybe I totally missed others reactions, but I didn’t question his dedication due to his time away; I was just happy to see him back, gave him a hug and that was the end of it. I sincerely hope this is the case at your academy as well: if you feel like you have to take some time off to deal with non-BJJ related stuff, then please know that it’s ok to take time off, it’s ok to deal with the other parts of your life and restore that sometimes delicate balance we all strive to maintain between personal stuff, work stuff and BJJ. Take your time, and come back when you feel like you are in a place where you can train. This is your journey in jiu jitsu, and if you need to take a detour so be it- although you probably should let someone know at your academy know if you are going away for a bit, just to make sure at least one person knows you didn’t drop off the face of the earth. 😉