Daily Archives: January 13, 2014

True Colors on the Mat

Saulo and honesty

I have to admit, there was a brief second I was seriously contemplating putting up the song “True Colors”- but then I actually read the lyrics for the first time in my life, and decided against it.

 

In moments of duress people tend to show their “true colors”- how they handle stressors and deal with the problem at hand. We all know how to smile politely and say things that people want to hear, say we’re fine when we are not, but when training those sorts of things are put to the side: your actions and reactions speak volumes when you roll, whether you intend them to or not.

And in the beginning when training you may react to this stress in a…less than graceful fashion. It’s ok, we’ve all been there at some point or another. I feel that a real growth in character happens when you have the humility to realize these flaws, and do something about them. Jiu jitsu time and time again gives you the opportunity to grow in skill, athletic ability and character- to honestly improve in your technique, and honestly become a better person all around.

Anyway, enough rambling: have a great day everyone!

 

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Diffusion of Responsibility and BJJ

One of the fun, and fascinating things I find about jiu jitsu is you are able to see certain elements of social psychology in full effect, and really you couldn’t find a better sampling of the general population, at least in our academy: a group of people from all stages of life and from different social backgrounds, all under on roof and sharing their love for a sport.

One of these elements includes diffusion of responsibility. The technical definition, according to Wikipedia, is “sociopsychological phenomenon whereby a person is less likely to take responsibility for action or inaction when others are present.”

Take this example: you go to an open mat your school is holding (even if they don’t have open mats, whatever, we’re pretending) and there are several students there of all sorts of ranks. Now let’s say you’ve been at this school for some time: you’ve made a few friends, and have a couple of guys or gals that you train with regularly. Partners pair off to roll, and you see there is one white belt sitting there- looking a little awkward, out of place and doesn’t have anyone to partner up with to train.

Diffusion of responsibility would mean that you would ignore this white belt, tell yourself that someone else will take care of them, will pick them and train. But, this is where diffusion of responsibility comes in: everyone else is thinking the same thing. Everyone else is under the impression that someone else at the open mat will pick this teammate, which then leads to the problem when no one steps forward to partner up with this student. Really this can happen at any level, I’m just using the example of the white belt since there is the likelihood that they would know less people and may by more timid than some higher belts, but again, this can happen at any level.

So how do we make sure that this doesn’t happen? No one wants to be the guy left out, and if enough students are ignored or left out enough times, they will leave-frustrated and feeling a little embarrassed. No one wants to the kid picked last in kickball, but it’s even worse to not be picked at all.

Well, first and foremost you now know about diffusion of responsibility- and I always feel that knowledge is power: you know this is a problem, and now you can do something about changing it.

So, now knowing this problem, I would encourage you to step forward and be the one who invites that white belt into a three man round-robin or something of that nature, when either rolling or even if you are just drilling, and if they are a much lower rank, go a little slower when drilling. They will appreciate it, you’ll still get your training and reps in, and will help someone feel more a part of your gym or academy. I say that’s a win all around. Or, you can do what our academy tends to do: students who would rather roll set up a rotation, so everyone gets to train with everyone, and can accommodate odd numbers, with a new person sitting out each time, rather than just one person not rolling the entire session. The main point is regardless of age, rank, etc. we all attend class because we love the sport. Go against this tendency, this diffusion of responsibility and invite a fellow student to join you. It may be a small gesture to you, but for them it could eventually mean the difference between staying at your gym and sharing the sport with you, or leaving frustrated and either moving to a different academy or just quitting all together.

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